How to do what you want in life: Take the leap
Are you happy with your current situation? Do you feel like you are making the most out of your life? If not, it is time to start making a change. Rather than just existing, you can actually enjoy life. There are always sacrifices to make, whether that be time, money or security, but, it is possible. I know first hand how difficult it is to make a change. But, I am loving life right now. So, here is my guide on how to do what you want in life.
We are programmed to take certain paths in life. This is called social programming and it comes from school, media, family, religion and society. We end up working to seek approval from others, because that is what we are programmed to do by the social system. This system uses our efforts for its own purposes.
We are taught to constantly work to be gratified by external goals. This leads us to think we will be happier in the future, if and when we reach those goals.
To get out of this mindset, we need to evaluate what is actually important to us. This means we can create our own goals, without external influence. With these goals we can enjoy ourselves day to day. This beats clock watching at work and waiting for the weekend.
How to break out of Social Media Programming
- Choose your own goals and values – You are programmed to aim for certain goals, so this is actually quite hard to change. However, choosing your values is easier. Forget about money for this one, what is important to you? How do you want to spend your time?
- Work towards those goals and values – Take action towards your goals and values. You need to ignore external influences that may hinder you. This is difficult, especially if you have security and can make you feel vulnerable. But, your attitude and confidence will improve quickly.
- Embrace your new independence – Being free from the norm is scary, but once you have taken the leap, you can do anything. It is actually very liberating and the feeling of being responsible for your own existence is brilliant.
Balance and Being Realistic
It is all very well saying “Go for it, the world is your oyster!”, but, we have to be realistic. Not everyone will achieve their goals of being an astronaut or a Formula 1 racing driver. But, if you want to get a certain job, travel the world, live by the sea, or like me move to the French Alps, it is definitely possible!
Most of the time, you will need money to reach these goals. You may need to save up for your camper van, pay for a course or simply move to a new location. To reach your goal, it may take months or years to achieve, but as long as you work towards that goal everyday, you are making progress.
My goal was to live in the French alps. But, I didn’t want to miss out on the very things we moved here for by working for someone else. I wanted a way to earn money, while being able to go snowboarding and mountain biking when the conditions were good.
Look at Your Options
You need to be honest with yourself, are you satisfied with the path you are taking? If not, go for a walk and think of the options that are immediately available. Maybe, a sideways move in to another department at work, ditching it all and starting again somewhere else or just having a career break.
If your options are limited or they don’t appeal, make some. This is where your imagination can run wild:
- If I did that water-sports course, I could get a job in the Bahamas
- If I could make money from the internet, I could work from anywhere
- If I got a job with a holiday company in France, I could go skiing every day in the winter
- If I got that photography qualification, I could make money doing something I love
This kind of thinking will lead you to do what you want in life.
I left a stable job as an engineer in the UK. It was fine, but I wasn’t satisfied. Therefore, I got a job working for a holiday company as a chalet host. Once the winter season was over, I carved an opportunity for a year round job. Once I had some security, I looked in to starting my own business. This led me to a lifestyle that I love.
Once you have some ideas of how you want to live, you need to do some research in to your options. This is where you look in to the options in more detail, with respect to what you need to do to reach the goals.
- Where can I do the water-sports course? How much does it cost? Where can I get a job in the Bahamas with it?
- How can I make money from the internet and how long does it take?
- How do I get a job with a ski company and which job do I want?
- Where can I do the photography course and how do I make money from doing it?
Your research will help you decide which option you want to take. You may even find out that it was a terrible idea. In this case, find another option. You may also find that your favourite option is harder to achieve than you thought. Therefore, you may need to get a part time job to pay for the course or take some other action to get there.
When I was looking to start my own business, I realised that flexibility was my main goal. Working online appealed to me, as I could pick my own hours. But, I had to research it, as I knew nothing about it.
Start Making Moves
Taking the plunge is the hard part. If you are in a stable job, with a mortgage (like me before I moved to France), making the move is terrifying. But, once you have done it, you do feel free and you see more possible paths for the future.
When you start making moves towards your goal, the hard work starts. This is when you need to free up time to get educated, put in extra hours of work in your spare time or even start sacrificing certain things to ensure you can move forward. You will know what to do from your research, but your moves could be:
- Going to night school
- Converting a van in to a camper
- Learning new skills
- Start your online business
Once I realised that starting my own online business was possible, I had to decide which direction I was going to take. I found lots of online courses on internet marketing, which appealed to me. I chose my favourite one and started to learn and build my business in my spare time.
Make The Leap
There is no perfect time to do something and there will always be excuses to not do it. There will always be “what ifs?” too. But, these are the things that hold you back. Some goals allow you to phase out one chapter of your life in order to start the next one. But, sometimes you just have to go for it. There will be people that doubt you and tell you that it you are doing the wrong thing. Don’t listen to them! They haven’t done the research, they don’t know how you feel and it is none of their business. Check out the video below for some inspiration.
When I left my engineering job in the UK, my boss said I was stupid. He said that moving to a ski resort was something you did when you were 19 not in your thirties with a mortgage. I replied with “why not, I can if I want to”. I have never looked back or wished I had stayed.
When I started my affiliate marketing business, some of my friends clearly thought it was a bad idea. But, now I am enjoying a great lifestyle dining what I want to do.
- You are never too old
- If you can’t afford it, you will find a way to make extra money to make it happen if you want it bad enough
- There will always be a sacrifice to get to where you want to be
- If you think there is no time to learn and research, think about how much TV you watch and how long you scroll through your phone at night
Are you doing what you want to do in life? If not, are you doing what you can to get there? Please let me know your thoughts and questions in the comments section below.